Workaround: create a custom GridDetailViewCellElement
Public Class Form1
    Sub New()

        InitializeComponent()

        AddHandler dgvPatients.CreateCell, AddressOf dgvPatients_CreateCell

    End Sub

    Private Sub dgvPatients_CreateCell(sender As Object, e As GridViewCreateCellEventArgs)
        If e.CellType = GetType(GridDetailViewCellElement) Then
            e.CellElement = New MyGridDetailViewCellElement(e.Column, e.Row)
        End If
    End Sub

End Class

Public Class MyGridDetailViewCellElement
    Inherits GridDetailViewCellElement

    Sub New(column As GridViewColumn, rowElement As GridRowElement)
        MyBase.New(column, rowElement)
    End Sub

    Public Overrides Sub UpdateTabItemsVisibility()
        If Me.DetailsRow Is Nothing Then
            Return
        End If

        MyBase.UpdateTabItemsVisibility()
    End Sub

End Class